Divorce Culture: My 2Cent!

Divorce is becoming a way of life in Nigeria, and if you think this is only common among celebrities, then think again, because if you look around you, you may well have that one relative or close friend or acquaintance who is either separated or who is currently undergoing a divorce. 

Ireti Doyle was the most recent shocker. I literally screamed in the kitchen when I read this yesterday morning, my wife thought I had chopped off my finger with the kitchen knife. In the last one year alone I have lost count. The social media has not made it any easier as people’s life’s and relationships have been brought before the ‘judgement seat’ of social media. I am literally waiting to hear Basket Mouth share a joke about his divorce the same way he had several jokes about his wife. 🙈

Jokes apart though, to be fair, relationships, let alone marriage, is one of the most difficult jobs on earth, no capping! I listened to one preacher say, if your marriage is like being a frying pan, then get fried 😊 I’ll let you make whatever you can out of this unconventional statement. But here is my 2 cent sha… 

1. There is no such thing as ‘the right person’ in marriage. Don’t be deceived by all the many relationship bloggers on IG, marriage is hard work guys, doesn’t matter if your spouse is an angel, the mere fact that you are human means that your selfishness will manifest sometimes and that ‘angel’ will piss you off badly and maybe regularly. I don’t know how else to say it sha, but there is so much more to it than the ass grabs, the stolen kisses, the public paparazzi, the awwwn-ish skits (whatever that means), the sex and fill in the blanks. If you are not ready for the job, stay clear! 🙏🏽
2. The boobs, nice ass, 6 packs, and figure 8 are all beautiful stuff, but when the chips are down, you will be willing to walk away from all of them. Pay attention to the things that matter the most; faith, and values.
3. Love is so much more than just a feeling. Beyond all the butterflies in the belly and incredible emotions, love is a very strong commitment.
4. Forgiveness is key! Always be ready to give your partner a million chances over. You don’t have to put or keep yourself in harms way, but don’t ever shut the door to forgiveness. 
5. Social media is a trap, don’t get carried away guys. Keep private business private, because at the end of the day, nobody send you for ‘these streets’ 🤷🏽‍♂️

Imagine that, with all the blunders you have made so far in your short life, you wake up one morning and God says He can’t put up with you anymore, and He is leaving. Unthinkable right? That’s how marriage ought to be; “as Christ loves the church” (Eph. 5:25). Forgive me, but talking about marriage without the Bible is like trying to fix a product without the manufacturer’s manual. 

Am not saying you should stay in a toxic environment/relationship, but be careful  not to get into one in the first place, and even if you did, quitting may not be an option. But I mean, what do I know? 

Did a post about finding the right person to marry a while back though, you can read it here

Please what’s your 2 cents on this matter abeg? Feel free to disagree with me in the comments section! 👍 

#myrandomweeklythoughts

HELP! I THINK I AM SICK! 😞

First things first! Happy new year to y’all reading this piece. I hope you are on the bright (or at least fair side of life). I really don’t know how happy the year would be (in fact I’m sure there is nothing happy about the new year) for the many people who have lost properties and loves ones because of the 11 months of senselessness going on in Ukraine. My heart goes out to them, and all others suffering untold hardships in Somalia, Sudan and many other parts of the world (including my dear Nigeria). Jesus needs to come soon and wrap up this mess we call ‘life’ to usher in ‘eternal life’ ASAP….If you agree with me on this just type AMEN in the comment section 👇🏽

So, my last post here was in September, and I even came back with accusations, that you were the reason why I was not posting consistently on my blog (maybe I am right about that sha), but there is a bigger problem. I AM SICK! I have been self-diagnosed with inconsistency, and it’s taking a toll on me! It’s almost creeping into every area of my life, but let me focus on blogging for now. 😞

So my plan is to post on my blog once every week, but for three years now, I have struggled with it. I have tried several medications for this in the past guys; I have reminders permanently set on my phone to make a blog post (in-fact my wife yabbed me about it few days back), I have made a list of topics to blog about, I have definitely prayed about it too, but nothing seems to be working. 

It’s psychologically draining a-times guys, honestly. This is me being vulnerable and I am getting tired fam, but I refuse to throw in the towel. Here is me giving it another shot! I do not consider myself a failure because I only fail when I give up trying. So while I am motivating myself and saying to myself ‘I can do this’, I know there are some of you (let me not say many of you) who are on this ‘table’ with me too. Please let me know how you are dealing with your own sickness and what medications you are using, because by the grace of God, 2023 is our year of HEALING! 

So leave me a few words in the comments please, hopefully I am not in this alone 🙏🏽 

Meanwhile, I wish y’all a very rewarding and progressive year ahead. I hope and pray that it is your best year yet! Happy new year! 🎆