So I attended a lecture last week at the Nigerian Institute of Social and Economic Research (NISER) on Women Bigamist in Southeast Nigeria, the lecturer and my friend; Dr. Amaka Emordi of the Department of Political Science at Obafemi Awolowo University had invited me. I honestly didn't know what to expect from the lecture, but my mind was blown away by the end of the lecture.
A woman bigamist is "a woman who simultaneously and successfully engages in more than one form of marriage". Don't get surprised just yet. A bigamist is not a lesbian, as she doesn't have any sexual relationship with her wife, even though they are legally married. Some variants of bigamy are: a woman marrying a younger woman for herself; a daughter marrying a wife for her father; a sister marrying a wife for her brother, among others.
Some of the major reason for bigamy include childlessness and the lack of male children. Poverty and social status as well as poor living standards are other factors necessitating women bigamy. Now, here are few complications from bigamy: the woman-husband (bigamist) fulfils all customary marriage rites and legally marries a fellow woman; the woman-wife is free to sleep with any man of her choice and as many men as she wants as long as it results in children for the woman-husband; the woman-wife is taken care of by her woman-husband as a man takes care of his wife and attends to her every need aside sexual... One interesting recommendation from the lecture, among others, is the establishment of sperm banks and encouragement of anonymous donations of sperms and female eggs to address the problem of infertility and lack of male children.
Now my questions:
1. Why on earth would you accept to be a woman-wife; legally married to a fellow woman?
2. Why would you buy sperm or eggs from a bank, or why not?
Kindly provide answers in the comment box, you never know who is reading... Shalom!
