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So two days ago I saw this video on IG, and I really was like, wait a minute, was this guy reading my mind or what? He literally went ahead to clearly highlight what I wanted to share with y’all, just that this is me telling you my own side of the story.
So on the 29th of July last year, I got married to my friend of 9years and my lover of some 10 months. That decision was about the best decision I ever made in my life; I will go all over it again and again if I had to; from meeting her, to our friendship, to dating and finally popping the question (and seeing that priceless look on her face) and then walking the aisle to bring her to the altar. I don’t and don’t expect to ever regret one bit of being married, let alone getting married to my wife. She’s my magic wand; and has brought so much good fortune into my life in just a few months. It’s important that I stress this firmly, so that what I am going to say subsequently is not taken out of context.
I miss some of my female friends! I asked my wife what she thought about the video and thankfully she confirmed that ‘it is normal’ for single female friends to hold back once a guy gets married, and vice versa. I bet she meant ‘it is normal’ not because it is the right thing to do, but because it has become tradition. Don’t get me wrong, almost everything changes when one gets married, and yes it is wise to shake off a few toxic friends (especially of the opposite sex) which can pose threat to your union. But my wife and I had a life before we got married; we each have platonic relationships that we cherish (for a thousand reasons) and as life progresses, as opportunities present themselves, these friends would become mutual. Unfortunately, some of my female friends may never get to meet my wife, but they’ll remain my friends.
It hurts to hear things like: you are married now na; or you have left our league/level. I only got married, didn’t go on exile. Marriage stole some friends from me and yes it hurts, but FAMILY FIRST!
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I also agree with this,it's normal for some changes to occur after marriage especially when it comes to friendship with the opposite sex.
ReplyDeleteLet's not forget some of these friends could include an ex,or someone you both had a thing but never worked out,its important we understand that friendship with the opposit sex while being married is very sensitive so it should be done diplomatically,but basically,I feel its owk to have friends of the opposite sex as long as they are mutual and boundaries are clear.