Divorce Culture: My 2Cent!

Divorce is becoming a way of life in Nigeria, and if you think this is only common among celebrities, then think again, because if you look around you, you may well have that one relative or close friend or acquaintance who is either separated or who is currently undergoing a divorce. 

Ireti Doyle was the most recent shocker. I literally screamed in the kitchen when I read this yesterday morning, my wife thought I had chopped off my finger with the kitchen knife. In the last one year alone I have lost count. The social media has not made it any easier as people’s life’s and relationships have been brought before the ‘judgement seat’ of social media. I am literally waiting to hear Basket Mouth share a joke about his divorce the same way he had several jokes about his wife. 🙈

Jokes apart though, to be fair, relationships, let alone marriage, is one of the most difficult jobs on earth, no capping! I listened to one preacher say, if your marriage is like being a frying pan, then get fried 😊 I’ll let you make whatever you can out of this unconventional statement. But here is my 2 cent sha… 

1. There is no such thing as ‘the right person’ in marriage. Don’t be deceived by all the many relationship bloggers on IG, marriage is hard work guys, doesn’t matter if your spouse is an angel, the mere fact that you are human means that your selfishness will manifest sometimes and that ‘angel’ will piss you off badly and maybe regularly. I don’t know how else to say it sha, but there is so much more to it than the ass grabs, the stolen kisses, the public paparazzi, the awwwn-ish skits (whatever that means), the sex and fill in the blanks. If you are not ready for the job, stay clear! 🙏🏽
2. The boobs, nice ass, 6 packs, and figure 8 are all beautiful stuff, but when the chips are down, you will be willing to walk away from all of them. Pay attention to the things that matter the most; faith, and values.
3. Love is so much more than just a feeling. Beyond all the butterflies in the belly and incredible emotions, love is a very strong commitment.
4. Forgiveness is key! Always be ready to give your partner a million chances over. You don’t have to put or keep yourself in harms way, but don’t ever shut the door to forgiveness. 
5. Social media is a trap, don’t get carried away guys. Keep private business private, because at the end of the day, nobody send you for ‘these streets’ 🤷🏽‍♂️

Imagine that, with all the blunders you have made so far in your short life, you wake up one morning and God says He can’t put up with you anymore, and He is leaving. Unthinkable right? That’s how marriage ought to be; “as Christ loves the church” (Eph. 5:25). Forgive me, but talking about marriage without the Bible is like trying to fix a product without the manufacturer’s manual. 

Am not saying you should stay in a toxic environment/relationship, but be careful  not to get into one in the first place, and even if you did, quitting may not be an option. But I mean, what do I know? 

Did a post about finding the right person to marry a while back though, you can read it here

Please what’s your 2 cents on this matter abeg? Feel free to disagree with me in the comments section! 👍 

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HELP! I THINK I AM SICK! 😞

First things first! Happy new year to y’all reading this piece. I hope you are on the bright (or at least fair side of life). I really don’t know how happy the year would be (in fact I’m sure there is nothing happy about the new year) for the many people who have lost properties and loves ones because of the 11 months of senselessness going on in Ukraine. My heart goes out to them, and all others suffering untold hardships in Somalia, Sudan and many other parts of the world (including my dear Nigeria). Jesus needs to come soon and wrap up this mess we call ‘life’ to usher in ‘eternal life’ ASAP….If you agree with me on this just type AMEN in the comment section 👇🏽

So, my last post here was in September, and I even came back with accusations, that you were the reason why I was not posting consistently on my blog (maybe I am right about that sha), but there is a bigger problem. I AM SICK! I have been self-diagnosed with inconsistency, and it’s taking a toll on me! It’s almost creeping into every area of my life, but let me focus on blogging for now. 😞

So my plan is to post on my blog once every week, but for three years now, I have struggled with it. I have tried several medications for this in the past guys; I have reminders permanently set on my phone to make a blog post (in-fact my wife yabbed me about it few days back), I have made a list of topics to blog about, I have definitely prayed about it too, but nothing seems to be working. 

It’s psychologically draining a-times guys, honestly. This is me being vulnerable and I am getting tired fam, but I refuse to throw in the towel. Here is me giving it another shot! I do not consider myself a failure because I only fail when I give up trying. So while I am motivating myself and saying to myself ‘I can do this’, I know there are some of you (let me not say many of you) who are on this ‘table’ with me too. Please let me know how you are dealing with your own sickness and what medications you are using, because by the grace of God, 2023 is our year of HEALING! 

So leave me a few words in the comments please, hopefully I am not in this alone 🙏🏽 

Meanwhile, I wish y’all a very rewarding and progressive year ahead. I hope and pray that it is your best year yet! Happy new year! 🎆

Max is going to Jail because of ‘Rigorous Sexual Activity’!

Hey there... 

So I was listening to the radio yesterday and came across this conversation that I found rather thought provoking and I thought to share with you... here it is!

This certain guy (let’s call him Maxwell) is known in his neighborhood for womanizing; he brings a different lady home almost every night for a sleepover. Unfortunately, on this day, he brings home Cynthia who unknown to him is asthmatic. In the middle of the night, Cynthia has an attack as a result of rigorous sexual activity (or for whatever reason) and sadly she doesn’t make it through the night, despite Maxwell doing everything within his power (except taking her to the hospital) to help the lady and save the situation. Poor boy!

Of course the police is involved and Maxwell is in detention awaiting trial. 

So before y’all begin to judge for trying to live the ‘good life’ 🤪, take a chill pill. The deed has been done already, so leave Maxwell to reflect a little behind bars while he awaits his trial.

But here is where you come in; drop a word of advice for a potential Cynthia and Maxwell out there. If you were to advice Cynthia and/or Maxwell before the ordeal,

WATIN YOU GO TALK? 🤔

Don’t fall hand abeg, use the comment section 🙏🏽🙏🏽

LONG ‘LIVE’ THE QUEEN!

What a week it’s been!

Liz Truss is sworn in and exactly two days after, Queen Elizabeth II bows out of not just the throne, but life in totality! 

February 6, 1952 to September 8, 2022; exactly 70 years, 7 months and 2 days after, the sun has finally set over Burkingham palace! 

70 years of vision, stability and consistency in the face of rapid changes and extreme global uncertainties. Late Queen Elizabeth has been described as “the only constant in the very rapidly changing times”. Hers has been a reign of admiration, and it is obvious that she is leaving behind STRUCTURES that would sustain the gains of 7+ decades.

African leaders are reminded once again that leadership is service and should deliver more than just ‘dividend of democracy’

Only time would tell what would come out of the reign of King Charles III, but in the words of my friend; Seraphine Aku-Batse; ‘London bridge has fallen’!

How did you receive the news of the Queens demise? Share in the comment section 

TWO YEARS AGO!

It’s been over two years I made any post on my blog... exactly 2 years and 4 months since my last post.

Please what is the drug for inconsistency again? I think I need a dosage. 

Well, I am giving it another try. 

Wish me luck and hey, read and make comments too! You sef follow for my problem 🤪

How’s the month going for you so far? 

Use the comment section and let me know what you would like me to write about more? Cheers! 

EVIL GREATER THAN COVID-19

Our world is at a crossroad guys! We have never seen anything like it (not in our generation at least), Some say it’s a Weapon of Mass Destruction (WMD), others say its global epidemic, still others say it’s population control strategy gone wrong, but whatever it is, it has brought our lives to a standstill, literally! That’s not even the heart of my gist in this particular blogpost.

You know, a lockdown has been imminent, only it took the government this long to declare it. Some have even argued that it ought to have been a national lockdown, especially since our condition in Nigeria is unique; among other things, there is a criteria for those who can be tested - have a travel history, showing symptoms, contact with a carrier and bla bla bla - meaning that several asymptotic persons are probably moving around and spreading the virus to other states that are not Ogun, Lagos and Abuja. Away from that too...

So I came across this news article yesterday of a German government official who was believed to have committed suicide as a fallout of COVID-19. https://www.vanguardngr.com/2020/03/german-minister-of-finance-commits-suicide-over-coronavirus/Just in case you are interested, that’s the link. This got me to think more deeply about the wider consequences of COVID-19. Mental health is at stake fam! Unfortunately, all the medical attention now (or at least a very large percentage of it) is focused on testing, isolation and treatments of victims, no one seems to be concerned/talking about the mental health implications of all of these. WE MAY HAVE MORE ‘MAD’ PEOPLE IN THE STREETS WHEN COVID-19 IS OVER (if not even before then). Why do I think so? So many reasons, but I’ll just state a few...

1️⃣For a good number of Nigerians, ‘work’ is the only ‘escape’ from home for several reasons; nagging spouse, troublesome kids, among others. Now they are forced to face their ‘giants’, and certainly there would be casualties. Already, statistics from China show that divorce rates have spiked in the last two months, God help us in a country like ours where almost every figure is a gross underestimate.

2️⃣Many Nigerians; and we are talking some 60-70% of Lagosians especially, are daily earners. They basically will starve if they don’t go out in a day. There have been reports of State and Federal government distributing food items and 20k to ‘poor households’ (I saw this one yesterday and laughed; Nigeria my country! SMH) respectively. And kudos to celebrities who have been doing a lot of giveaways, but how many people are giving away, how coordinated is the giving, and how many people are actually getting? Apparently, many people may likely die of hunger before depression even gets to them.

3️⃣Frustration from the lack of basic amenities will drive people crazy, literally. I saw a video on IG yesterday, of a famous Nigerian Actress frustrated about the unending and maddening sound of generators in her neighborhood, and crying and begging the government to provide electricity if people have to stay home. I am certain millions of other people (including myself) share her sentiment. Unfortunately, we can’t all handle frustration equally and we have a ‘deaf’ government (for lack of a better word); some may be pushed to breaking point if the frustration continues for two whole weeks ‘at the first instance’.

I could go on and on, but I guess my point is made. Depression, anxiety and the likes, may be greater evils than COVID-19 when the chips are down. But you can be a part of the solution; 

• reach out constantly to that friend who you know has a pre-existing mental health condition.
• check in regularly with your friends and acquaintances who you know are home alone at this time.
• be conscious of your own mental health too. Exercise as often as possible (it works!)
• engage in some productive activities, at least read a book!
• as much as possible, don’t share fake news. Even some of the real news can be depressing too, so don’t share ‘depressing real news’. There is enough to chew on already.
• pray and hope in God! COVID-19 has proven (even to the Atheists, I believe) that the help of humanity certainly has to come from outside of humanity. 

I am certainly this phase will be in the past sooner than we think, and I hope and pray that our sanity is intact when all of this is over.

Share in the comment section how you are keeping sane in the midst of this crisis (you could cheer someone on!) 🙏🏽

Fragile February

 

Yo fam! Happy new year from your’s truly. Mehn, a lot has been going on in my space lately, and unfortunately Myk Ogu blog has just been suffering unjustly, but please keep wishing me well guys! Special thanks to those of you pushing me to keep putting my thoughts out there, thanks for keep up with my blog, much love guys!

Back to the chase, come to think of it guys, what month of the year do you consider the most fragile? (Stop by the comment session and let me know what you think and why) February it is for me! If only the inventors of February 14  (whoever they are) knew what they were getting the world into, they most likely would have had a rethink. All in the name of Valentine, young men have had a really hard time impressing some girl with whom they may never share more than their money with, young ladies have had to put up with guys that are way below their ‘league’, and many have gone into depression, sadly! A day intended to be one of love has become an entire nightmare for many because of dashed hopes and the likes...

I don’t have a lot of experience, but here are a few of my amateur suggestions on how to make the most of this and as many other February 14’s you have ahead.

1. All that glitters is not gold. All of those who seem to be having a beautiful valentine experience may have stories you wouldn’t ever want to be identified with. So envy is a bad idea.
2. Don’t expect anything. Where there are no expectations, there are no disappointments. So whether or not you have a special someone, it would be bad enough to expect a treat from them, and worse expecting to be treated in a particular way. If you get a treat, enjoy it, and if you don’t, love your significant other still...Times are hard fam!
3. Plan a treat for yourself. If you want a treat so badly, then there ain’t nothing wrong with planning something special for yourself. Come to think of it, you deserve something special, so give it to yourself!
4. Be vigilant. The good book says “be sober and vigilant”, but I want to stress the vigilance. Some guys and/or ladies are waiting to devour and February 14 provides a unique opportunity, so beware! 
5. Be happy. I don’t know how you can ‘be happy’ and not get yourself into trouble, but let no one or ‘day’ steal your joy.

I know these might really be amateur tips, but I guess my point is; February is such a fragile month, don’t let yours get broken!

Send me your thoughts in the comment section below.

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